Has the switch flipped and you’re starting to think about becoming pregnant? Have you started to notice more pregnant women everywhere you go?
Does it seem like there’s a new mom pushing a stroller on every street corner? Do you see Dads with little ones in carriers? If so, you just might be starting to think about becoming a mom yourself. This is sometimes known as the pre-contemplative phase where ideas take seed and start to grow in your mind.
Questions to consider
Every woman approaches this process from their own unique perspective. Here’s some questions to consider:
- What’s your personal timeline for getting pregnant?
- Next month?
- Maybe in 6 months or a year?
- How does work, school and your career fit into your plans?
- Are you feeling the pressure from your family to have a grandchild?
- Are you already a mom and feeling pressure to have another baby?
What about your partner?
Are their ideas about timing in sync with yours? It’s normal for one person to be ready for a baby and for their partner to be more hesitant.
If you’re feeling pressure from family, it can be very intense. Perhaps you’ve got your some plans for the future and the idea of a baby has to wait until later.
No matter what, there’s a lot to consider as you prepare.
Many women find it helpful to write down the factors that are influencing their decision about becoming pregnant. It’s completely normal and natural to map out what you think your life will be like and then find that life, school, partners, family, work and everything in our busy and complicated lives aren’t exactly lining up the way we thought they would.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by the normal everyday pressures of life, especially now with everyone working at a fast and furious pace all the time. You may be hesitant to add a new baby to your life. Or perhaps you’re feeling pressure to delay pregnancy until you’ve accomplished your goals. No matter what the factors are that influence your decision, it’s often helpful to take some time and think about what’s most important to YOU!
Envisioning your life as a mom
Here’s some questions to ponder:
- What would you like your life to look like?
- How will you juggle work, school and family factors in to your life and your lifestyle with a new baby?
- How’s your health?
- Your living situation?
- Your finances?
- What would you like your future to look like?
- Where does a baby fit in to all of this?
Remember there’s no right or wrong here or one way that’s best. It’s your own personal path.
Good luck in your journey.