New Moms are confronted with a gazillion new things to learn, cope with and react to. Many new moms haven’t spent a lot of time around babies and children, which makes the tsunami of feeding, diapering, sleeping and recovering from childbirth issues overwhelming.
It’s hard to know what to do when there is no magical book that tells you exactly the type of person you are, match it with your baby’s temperament and add in to it all of the unpredictable factors like labor and delivery experience, breastfeeding issues, sleep, crying, spitting up, you name it.
Feed Me – I’m Yours
Feeding babies is a highly emotionally charged experience when you break it down. Some parents worry that the baby is not getting enough to eat and could become sick. Others, worry that the baby is eating too much and will be overweight. All of this is dependent on parent’s own relationships with food, how much their baby weighed at birth, whether they’re growing appropriately on the weight chart. It’s difficult to not obsess about these things.Because eating and feeding is such a complicated issue, many parents lose their Zen like composure and get a little stressed out. The problem is that babies can sense fear and stress and will react to it.
Even if You’re Not Calm, Pretend You Are
I think this also applies in some ways to moms and babies. For sure when you talk to a baby, they do respond to how you interact with them, and how you say things. Babies will laugh and smile at complete gibberish, they will snuggle into the arms of someone who holds them close and rocks gently.
Babies Like to Feel Secure and That You’re in Charge
When introducing any new feeding routines, a bottle of pumped milk, foods or techniques, it’s a very complex dance where success is more dependent on how fun, calm & nurturing you are, rather than having the feeling that we need to do this “at all costs.”
“I gotta get this kid to eat” is a recipe for a closed mouth and refusal. I think it also comes down to this. It’s not necessarily what you’re doing, it’s how you’re doing it. If a mom is comfortable with her choices, no matter what they are, the baby will pick up on that calm confidence and be less likely to be anxious and fussy.