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After birth, your baby still relies on you for nutrients. Without the umbilical cord, it’s a little less immediate, but what you eat mostly determines what you’re giving your baby.
Eating for Two
Can I lose weight and eat like this?
By Amy Alamar, EdD
Each year, I find myself sitting on the bleachers talking to other parents as we watch our kids kick, foul or score in their chosen sport. As we talk, you’d think we’re all raising the next Olympic contender, who also happens to major in classical piano with a minor in Ancient Greek – in case a gold medal doesn’t work out. I admit that, along with other proud parents, I may pressure my kids to reach the next competitive or performance level. In fact, it was my own son, repeatedly requesting to play rec soccer after we’d ask, “are you sure you don’t want to sign up for the soccer camp or tryout for the travel team? After all, you’ll improve more if you play with better players!” that I finally realized that I didn’t need to push extracurricular activities on my family, especially those complete with undue stress and commitment.
Even if you kind of suspected or knew with your whole heart that you were pregnant, when you actually pee on the stick and see the little lines officially confirming your pregnancy, your life changes in a nanosecond.
All of a sudden you might go from thinking “I’m probably just late.” To OMG, now what? Suddenly, there’s a flurry of emotions and questions. What should you do? Are you ready? What should you name your child? While I won’t suggest baby names for you, I can give you some guidance on what to do during pregnancy. Pregnancy is an incredible feat, and I know you’ll be able to rise to the challenge. Ready? Set? Let’s get started. (more…)
Pregnancy and delivery can be incredible challenging and yet when your sweet baby is born, your journey as mother takes a new turn. When you make the switch from expectant mother to proud mama, life gets a lot more complicated and what you learn day-to-day and minute-to-minute is incredible.
You think that the hard part, giving birth, was overwhelming, now you have to figure out how to feed this little person while at the same time recovering from birth. You love this baby and you want them to only have the very best, and yet, this is a new skill and you’re probably exhausted. (more…)
This is a letter that one of our contributors generously agreed to write as a guide to parents who are sending their kids off to college. He is a newly graduated senior heading off to his first year several hours away from his mom and dad.
I would assume that some of you reading this have teenage children; more specifically, teenage children that have just graduated from high school and are moving on to become college students. I am currently making the same transition myself and I wanted to offer an understanding of what it is like to become fully independent and what you as parents can do to make that transition successful for your son or daughter.
With only a few days left until moving day or maybe you’ve already said your goodbyes and are drying your tears, there are still things that might need to be done. Clothes and school supplies need to be purchased, bags need to be packed, roommates need to be met, and goodbyes need to be said. Getting acquainted into a new environment is a lot to handle emotionally and physically; and an 18 year old might not be able to handle it all on their own without some support from you (even though they say they can).
Look, We all know that it is very hard, ok impossible, to please a teenager, however in my opinion there is a fine line between doing too much and not doing enough. It is crucial to recognize that they need their space when they ask for it. Ignore this at your peril and bite your tongue. When you give them space, you as parents, are validating their wishes to act like and feel like a functioning adult. You are letting them practice being independent while you are still there as a safety net. (more…)
As time passes we all get better at blazing a trail through the thicket of advice.”
There’s so much advice, tips, must do’s must haves and must nots swirling around all of us. What’s up with all the advice? I think it comes from the idea of community and that we’re all in this together, we have to band together to survive. The trick is knowing when to take advice and when to ignore it.
As a parent, we are full of advice, unsolicited, pay attention and don’t forget advice about everything from how to ride your bike and learn the multiplication tables to how to parallel park and apply for college. I know that I better zip it and smile, when my son get’s “the look” that says “I’m over saturated with this obvious advice, so I’m not listening any more, Mom!”
It’s not easy walking that fine line between listening and giving advice, especially in my day job as a nurse practitioner. People actually make appointments to see me for health care and some advice on how to get better and live healthier. My excuse is that giving advice is what I do for a living and in many circumstances, the advice I give is not intuitive, it’s based on research and evidence.
And yet, in many other cases, when I’ve really spent the time listening to a person mull over and work through an issue, there’s another type of advice that I really like to give, which is to shed the advice and “Trust your own instincts.”
If you need advice on how to use contraception, avoid infections, eat healthy, navigate a pregnancy, get a baby latched on, manage diabetes, talk to a family member and on and on and on, I’m your gal. And, I also hope that if you just need talk and have someone listen, then I’m right here too.