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In an emotionally charged work environment such as nursing, laughter, tears and other emotions are going to be at an all time high, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. These physical reactions of the body in consequence of emotional feelings lead to a renewed state of mind and provide release of tension and emotional healing. Check out the infographic below to see what happens biologically during these two reactions, the after-effects, and how to positively incorporate them within a health care setting.
We all go to incredible lengths to take care of the important people in our lives. Drop everything, re-prioritize, re-arrange and make it work. When a family member, loved one or friend falls very ill or a visit suddenly reveals that they need more care and support than they have, it may feel as though their needs suddenly become your number one priority.
No matter how much you or other people are also doing for this person, providing care encompasses many different things and sometimes people think that they aren’t really caregivers unless the person is completely incapacitated. Many of my friends and patients feel they are (more…)
Here’s a handy communication tool I received in a mass email. This is for men who love someone dealing with hormonal swings from PMS or Menopause.
If you’re a risk taker, then by all means stay in the Red zone of communication. If you want to live a longer healthier life, then steer toward the Right side of the guide. In any case, there are some fool proof phrases here to keep the peace. (more…)
My favorite day of the year is Valentine’s day. This is from our Featured Guest Writer Today is Mia Figlia. When she isn’t musing about life and all it’s intricacies, Mia is busy making the world a happier place and bringing smiles to her friends. She lives in the SF Bay Area with her husband and daughter.
Do you have a favorite day of the year you celebrate? There are so many we are supposed to get excited about and yet somehow I find they bring some sort of angst. My birthday stirs up deep emotions because I have hard time being the center of attention. On mother’s day I am conflicted about selfishly enjoying the day with my daughter or dutifully spending the day with my mother. My wedding anniversary gradually lost it’s exhilaration after 10 or 15 years.
Christmas is …well….hmph. But as Oprah would say, “what I know for sure” is that I love Valentine’s Day. It really is the best day of the year. It creeps up on you after a much needed rest from the Winter Holidays. It needs no herculean efforts or special preparation and only lasts one day. And best of all, for me it has nothing to do with romance but everything to do with love.
I usually get a skeptical look from people when I say this. They think I am being sarcastic. (more…)
Mountain View Best Hidden Gem for Holiday Shopping
With the holidays in full swing, and knowing that we’re all on the hunt for one location where you can find unique and thoughtful gifts for everyone on your list at great prices, I wanted to share with you all one of the best kept secrets for your holiday shopping. And you may be surprised. It’s somewhere you’re probably not expecting: our very own, localEl Camino Hospital in Mountain View.
I stopped by yesterday to get a tour by Patty Tager, the buyer for the El Camino Hospital Gift Shops, and was blown away by the amazing selection of gifts, for any and every season, but especially for the holiday season available in their five different gift shops.
Patty combs the country throughout the year to find cutting edge and uniqe products and then sells them at very competitive prices. “We are committed to offering the best products and services to all our customers, whether they are patients in our hospital, or members of our community, who come for a different shopping experience,” she said.
Price ranges and assortments vary and they have an extraordinary selection of holiday décor and gifts. You can find jewelry, scented candles, beautiful apparel and scarves, gifts for everyone in the family, fresh flowers, and even something so simple as a toothbrush. I saw great gifts for SF Giants and SJ Sharks fans. There’s something for everyone, and I had fun scoping out what I’m going to buy for hostess gifts this year. It really is one of those local gems that few people know about, so I wanted to share it with you. (more…)
What is the perfect holiday? Are you stressed from trying to recreate a perfect holiday so that your family can have cherished memories?
You’re not alone!
It’s ok to admit it and join in the group. Hi, my name is Barb and every time I see one more perfect image of the perfect holiday, I feel, well, I feel a little….inadequate. I don’t live near anything that resembles this scene from an LL Bean catalogue. I’d like to visit it, of course, but the last time I cut down my own tree, was a long long time ago.
Are you brave enough to admit that you’re one of us, the brave and fearless women who will turn themselves into a nicely wrapped, if not frazzled bow to create holiday memories for the family?
Of course you are! Come on, who doesn’t look at the beautifully photographed holiday catalogues that arrive like Christmas elves every few days starting in late October and think about going out to buy whatever it is they’re selling to help create the “magic.”
Perfectly photographed doesn’t equal happy…..or real!
Gosh, don’t those people look so happy in their sweaters and scarfs sitting on a sleigh with perfectly groomed trees dusted with snow in the background?
And where are the kids who spill juice on the carpet, or the cranky older relative who’s been wearing the same flannel shirt for years and years, and years? Where are the real people in these catalogues?
Now this is a real family. Come on Dad! We just want to take 1 family photo! Get off the couch and get involved. Alright showing up 5-50%. He showed up.
Don’t you just love this mom? I saw this in Women’s Day. She’s trying and so are the girls. They’re all in cute matching PJs in front of the tree, but couldn’t get Dad quite on board. At least he’s in the photo.
Do you just love the holidays?
Maybe not so much. Turns out, lots of us overburdened and overworked moms are “living in the moment” which translates to being completely overwhelmed with our regular, daily life, thank you very much. We are not only, not ready for the holidays, we may also be in complete denial that they are going to be here in a few short weeks.
What is the perfect holiday?
If you’ve been too busy working at a job and then working at your other job (your family) and haven’t had any time to be out and about in the real world which means “the mall,” you may not have noticed but, the holiday decorations went up in October! Weeks and weeks ahead. And Thanksgiving this year, finish the family meal, the family time, clean up the kitchen and then you can go……shopping and get a jump on the craziness on Friday.
When I think about The Holidays, that means Thanksgiving and turkey and gravy and who is coming? And then, it means Christmas and getting the decorations down from the attic and prepping……Whoa, hold on. I’m already overwhelmed.
Back to the catalogues
Oh, am I the only one who feels inadequate when I see cover photos evoking a blissfully peaceful family gathering with a crackling fire, happy contented people and mugs of cocoa. Really? When I see those photos, I think about how much work it takes to make those images come to life and actually happen in my own family.
First, you have to have enough milk to make cocoa, and enough chocolate, then are we really out of whipped cream? And, then what about the robes and pajamas? Are they really appropriate for a group setting? A fire? Does that mean I should clean out the grill first, so the old stuff in there doesn’t catch fire and, by the way, how do you open up the flue? That is what it’s called right?
It’s a lot of extra work to make those picture perfect memories
I love having people over and I love this time of year, I really do, I just need to step back and refocus on what’s really important. Yes, picture perfect memories are nice, but I think I’ll skip them this year. I’m going to go for messy and real and fun!
Here’s my strategy, and feel free to weigh in if you have any advice. Or check out what my friend, Renée Trudeau has to say about giving yourself permission to rest this time of year.
• First, I’ll step back and look at the big picture, focusing like a laser on what’s most important, not on the trappings and the appearances.
• For me that means thinking about choices. I’d rather have a fun gathering of friends and family and have take out rather than try to “set a stage” that looks great but drains all the time and energy for the superficial.
• Wait a second, this is kind of like shifting the focus from planning the perfect wedding to staying true to keeping the focus on what’s important in the relationship.
Give this girl a Peppermint Schnaps
Yes, I want the nice cozy house and the crackling fire, the long walks and the hours of board games with holiday treats, and making some cookies for friends and family. I would like to make the time to reach out to some elderly relatives and chat, not just sign my name to a card.
So this year, I’m resolving in advance to reflect on what has the most meaning and then making the time to make it happen. It might means whale watching, or a pot-luck with friends. It could be volunteering? Hiking? Heading to see the Nutcracker? The sky’s the limit, when you’re not limited by trying to live up to some images from a catalogue.
What are you going to do?
Do you have any extra cocoa or whipped cream?
I saw this Blog: WhereWeGoNow and thought you might also enjoy her tips.
By the way, this is my image of the perfect holiday.
Don’t name your baby that! And 5 other things never to say to a pregnant mom.
When your friends proudly clue you in to the name they’re planning for their baby, here’s a list of 5 things never to say.
Get your foot out of your mouth
How many times have you asked a pregnant couple what they plan to name their baby, then after they proudly let you in on their decision, without realizing it, you find your foot squarely in your mouth. Yikes.
Tip toe through the emotional minefield
Be careful wading into this particular pool of conversation. (more…)
If you know anyone who is graduating, this is a wonderful letter to a graduating class written by Peter Shankman
“Expect greatness, prepare for utter failure and never be unwilling to change. You’re going to have incredible moments of greatness in your life, I promise you. The things you’re going to do successfully are so incredible, your little high-school brains can’t even begin to process them now. You’re going to be amazing, I have no doubt.”
Click here to continue to read the entire letter.
I laughed so hard reading this book that I couldn’t wait to turn the pages and see what was next. Robin O’Bryant is brilliant. Truly, she takes the most mundane and commonplace experiences that every mom has had, turns them on their head and shakes them until hilarity and incontinence producing laughter results. Ketchup is a Vegetable and Other lLes Moms Tell Themselves will have you nodding your head in solidarity and wishing that you were as witty and had the ironic perspective that Robin has.
Undecided Voters: Who are they? I am still scratching my head about something. The undecided voters.
Please help me understand who they are and what they’re like. Are they the same folks who torture waitresses because they can’t decide between the Caesar salad with grilled chicken or the penne pasta with sun-dried tomatoes.
“Hmmm….I just don’t know. Which do you like?” they ask, as the waitress plasters a smile over her gritted teeth. “Is the pasta garlicky? Do you use olive oil in that or butter? Geez, everything looks so good, how can I decide. Well, ok, I know you’re busy, so I’ll have the soup….no wait, how about the fish tacos…..well, give me another minute.” They call out as the waitress recedes from view. “Gosh, I just don’t know.” (more…)